Ceremony: The importance of the order of events at your wedding.

Ceremony: The importance of the order of events at your wedding.


The ceremony is meant to be the most meaningful part of your wedding day. It is the main event where you and your other half declare your love for each other, say vows, exchange rings and seal it all with a kiss. Your chosen theme will play a big part in the ceremony. You may have an archway, a special backdrop, flowers, ribbons and even a certain type of chair for guests .If you have gone for an outdoor ceremony, then ensure you have a wet weather option for the big moment as the last thing you want is to be caught in the rain on the day. There are different stages to a ceremony and it is totally up to you as to how you make it work, but the event should go something like the following:

The Procession

This is the part where everyone walks down the aisle and takes their places for the ceremony. Traditionally, the bride is escorted by her father, while the groom waits for her up the front. The order of appearance generally starts with the family making their way to their seats, before the groom enters and takes his place up the front. You can either have the groomsmen walk the bridesmaids in or have them stand up front before the groom enters with the bridesmaids entering one by one. Lastly we have the entrance of the bride. Perhaps an important thing to consider for this is the music that will be playing as this happens. You may choose to have a separate song for the bridal party entrance and the bride’s entrance, or can make it all happen within one song; it is entirely up to you.

The Officiant’s Opening Remarks

The celebrant sets the scene for the ceremony by welcoming everyone.

The Charge to the Couple

Your officiant will take this moment to highlight the significance of the vows. This may also include a reminder of your duties and roles in marriage.

The Exchange of Vows

Your vows are your promises to each other. You may repeat the familiar “to have an to hold, for better or for worse” vows, or recite ones you’ve written yourselves.

The Ring Exchange

The giving and receiving of a ring is a custom of many cultures and formally seals the marriage. Symbolically the unbroken shape of the ring recognises the unbreakable vows of marriage and is intended to be worn for a lifetime.

The Pronouncement of Marriage

The celebrant makes it official with a statement of ‘I now pronounce you husband and wife” or, “I now pronounce you married in love and in life”.

The Kiss

The highly anticipated public display of affection seen at every wedding, a loving celebratory smooch!

Signing of the Legal Documents

This is the time to sign your marriage documents. At what point during the ceremony this occurs depends on the celebrant and personal preferences, however most people like to do this after the kiss. While this is happening, there is usually entertainment of some sort, which can come in the form of a reading, musical performance or having your song of choice played to the guests.

The Closing Remarks

Your celebrant wraps things up with a few last words and usually ends with something along the lines of, “friends and family, I give you, Mr. and Mrs. Mcintosh”.

The Recessional

With the close of the ceremony you will exit together as a married couple. This is the time for confetti if you are having any,and most people choose an upbeat song to walk out to which can add to the atmosphere and create a magical ending.

Post Ceremony Congratulations

Before you rush off to do photos you may want to spend some time greeting your guests allowing them to offer their words of congrats.This is also a great time to tick off family photos.

Ceremony Music

Throughout a ceremony the music is so important. It really lends to the atmosphere and adds a strong sensory cue for your memories of the day to last. You will want to choose songs that are meaningful to your relationship and set the right tone for your theme and vision for the day. There are many different love songs out there but here are some to get you started:


Here Comes The Sun - Nina Simone

Bittersweet Symphony (The Verve) - Vitamin String Quartet Cover

Everything Little Thing She Does Is Magic (The Police) - Sleeping at last Cover



You’re My Best Friend - Queen

My Girl - The Temptations

You Are the Best Thing - Ray La Montagne